I used to have a perfect and happy family when I was on my early childhood. I 've been missing those moments when my mama spend a lot of time caring for me whole day long. As I grew up, all of those wonderful moments started to perish. My parents went abroad for financial matters. They've been thinking for my future. When I moved here in province, I started to notice that my parent's relationship deteriorates. I never dare to ask my parents or my grandparents about our issues because Im afraid to know the truth. The truth which I know in myself that I cant really accept. Acceptance is hard to achieve especially that Im on my self molding period. But I learned to be quiet in all the things that have been happening around me. I learned to understand things that never been given clear explainations and reasons. I always think that its better to pretend that nothing's wrong to hide all the pain. I hate heartaches. Im just a quiet person when I do encounter problems. I used to be alone and be isolated on my own. I have no one to talk to with all my burden, and so I met God. He never refuse to listen to me a million times. He has a unique way to comfort me everytime. With all of my burdens, I encountered a lot of things in myself.
1. First is pain. Pain is never absent on my life. It always attacks me. I think the most painful thing to have is family separation. It confused my mind a lot wherever I go.
2.Second is jealousy. I really get jealous seeing a whole family painted with happy faces.
3.Third is acceptance. Its hard to accept that Im living on a broken home. Its hard to understand and accept everything.
4.Fourth is forgiveness. The blame in my parents is difficult to erase. But because of my great love to them, I already have forgiven mama and papa.
5. Lastly is future insights. They dont go away on my mind everytime Im alone. I always imagine each of my parents having a new family. Its the only thing Im very sure that I really really cant accept.
1. First is pain. Pain is never absent on my life. It always attacks me. I think the most painful thing to have is family separation. It confused my mind a lot wherever I go.
2.Second is jealousy. I really get jealous seeing a whole family painted with happy faces.
3.Third is acceptance. Its hard to accept that Im living on a broken home. Its hard to understand and accept everything.
4.Fourth is forgiveness. The blame in my parents is difficult to erase. But because of my great love to them, I already have forgiven mama and papa.
5. Lastly is future insights. They dont go away on my mind everytime Im alone. I always imagine each of my parents having a new family. Its the only thing Im very sure that I really really cant accept.
In my 15 years of existence, we never had a family picture.And that will be the most precious gift I can receive on my graduation this march.I know its impossible,but nobody forbids me to stop dreaming.
Through all of these dilemmas, there still a little hope that remains in my heart. Im still hoping that my parents will find a way to be together again. With the guidance of God, Ill survive. He will never leave me on my long journey. :D
These are some tips that can help someone like me.
Do's and Don'ts
If your parents have recently separated, or you are comforting someone whose parents have separated, these are some "Do's and Don'ts" to keep in mind: * Don't isolate yourself from others. This can lead to deep depression. Seek help from a trusted friend or pastor.
* Do talk about your thoughts and feelings. Also, consider keeping a journal to God so you are expressing yourself to Him.
* Do pray and read the Bible. Know that God is there for you during this time. Allow this situation to draw you to Him.
* Don't play referee or take sides with a parent. Don't talk bad about one parent to the other.
* Do be honest with everyone involved, including your parents.
* Don't be an emotional shoulder for your parents. If they are upset let them know you care but they need to talk to someone else because you are not responsible for their emotional well being.
* Do be willing to forgive. If anyone involved comes to you and apologizes, be willing to forgive him or her.
